Blog Summary
Thoughts and Musings
2021 - Present
How do we cope when our bodies and minds aren’t what they were? How do we find purpose in life? Is adventure still on the horizon? Can we cope much less thrive in today’s chaotic environement? How might adventure change as we sprout wrinkles?
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Adventuring
- Jun 20, 2023 Must an Adventure be Extreme?
- Apr 15, 2022 Adventure finds you when least expected
- Nov 2, 2021 Marooned in Memphis
- Oct 10, 2021 Why Girl Scouts?
- Dec 29, 2020 When will it end?
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Commentary
- Jul 18, 2023 AI is not the Monster, is it?
- Jul 1, 2023 Zooming with Ukrainians
- Jun 20, 2023 Must an Adventure be Extreme?
- May 15, 2022 Missed Rebellion
- Feb 23, 2022 Alone and Inbetween
- Jan 17, 2022 Troubling Times
- Dec 23, 2021 Holiday Cards
- Dec 16, 2021 It’s not about me at Christmas
- Nov 27, 2021 Opera is not dead
- Nov 2, 2021 Marooned in Memphis
- Oct 19, 2021 Art Fights Gun Violence
- Jul 3, 2021 Humbled and Renewed
- Jun 26, 2021 Buckshot not Bullets
- May 28, 2021 Dog Sitting
- Apr 28, 2021 Assumptions are Stupid
- Apr 22, 2021 First Kiss
- Mar 19, 2021 Messing with Meditation
- Feb 25, 2021 What’s in a Nickname?
- Feb 18, 2021 Confinement Messes with the Mind
- Feb 12, 2021 Breadth or depth?
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Medical Adventure
- Jun 11, 2023 Spine Surgery Epilogue
- Jun 4, 2023 Pushing too hard almost defeated me…
- May 30, 2023 A Step in the Wrong Direction
- May 21, 2023 No Bending, Lifting, Twisting
- May 16, 2023 Creeping Disabling Pain Got Me
- May 21, 2021 Pretzel Pain
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On Ageing
- Jun 7, 2022 Wise or Just Old?
- Nov 17, 2021 Memory on My Mind
- May 21, 2021 Pretzel Pain
- Apr 12, 2021 Pandemic Isolation Thwarted
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On Writing
- May 8, 2023 Pandemic Stress
- May 16, 2022 They liked it!
- Feb 23, 2022 Alone and Inbetween
- Feb 10, 2022 Rabbit Hole
- Oct 24, 2021 Fiction vs. Memoir
- Jun 26, 2021 Buckshot not Bullets
- Jun 19, 2021 Claustrophobia
- Apr 5, 2021 Ode to Southern Writers
- Mar 25, 2021 Criticism - Gift or Fault Finding?
- Mar 19, 2021 Messing with Meditation
- Mar 5, 2021 When writing ‘what you know’ is not enough
- Apr 22, 2020 The Writing Life
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Pandemic
- May 8, 2023 Pandemic Stress
- Jun 19, 2021 Claustrophobia
- Apr 12, 2021 Pandemic Isolation Thwarted
- Feb 18, 2021 Confinement Messes with the Mind
- Dec 29, 2020 When will it end?
A Lesson in Dying
What could I have done when there was nothing that I could do but wait?
I gasp for air through my tears. A tsunami of grief has plunged deep into my chest pushing away all in its path, leaving a hallow in its wake. She told me that she was not afraid of dying because she would be gone. She was afraid for me and the others, the ones left behind, because we would suffer the emptiness, the missing of her. She craved peace and release from the piercing wretchedness that overwhelmed her when medications failed. She just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up. This morning her wish was granted. She's gone.
Photo by David Ettlin
What could I have done when there was nothing that I could do but wait?
I gasp for air through my tears. A tsunami of grief has plunged deep into my chest pushing away all in its path, leaving a hallow in its wake. She told me that she was not afraid of dying because she would be gone. She was afraid for me and the others, the ones left behind, because we would suffer the emptiness, the missing of her. She craved peace and release from the piercing wretchedness that overwhelmed her when medications failed. She just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up. This morning her wish was granted. She's gone.
I grieve for her and, selfishly for myself, for I have lost part of who I am. She shared with me so generously her spirit, her friendship, her art, and her unequivocal joy at being alive. Because of these gifts, I comprehend my world and live differently. Through her photography I see immeasurable beauty. Through her writing, I see how words dance across the written page to create poetry. Through her theatre work, I hear stories she was unafraid to tell. Her ability to open her life to others unashamedly, risking rejection to create and explore with bottomless curiosity was rare. Her laughter lifted my spirits when they most needed lifting. Her judgements and observations were never criticisms, but heartfelt offerings I openly embraced.
Right now, I am numb and I live in black and white despite the sunshine at my window. Nothing but what has happened to her today matters. I wait for a torrent of disarray, anguish, and even anger to overwhelm me. I will battle through it. But I will never be bitter over losing her. She wouldn't want it that way.